Birthday Questions


It was the spring of 2007, when I met her.  We were both high school seniors, eagerly anticipating the new season of life that would be college, adulthood, and freedom.  We were the only two declaring education as our major in our cohort of 40 students who had been invited to the university for a chance to interview for five full-tuition scholarships.  I didn’t land that scholarship.  But I gained something much more valuable.  We decided to be roommates after spending that week together, never realizing we would become lifelong friends.

This year will be nine years of celebrating birthdays together.  She created a tradition early on that would stick with us through all of our birthdays, whether we were physically together or not to celebrate them.  Each birthday, she would ask the first two questions to the birthday girl and the last question to our group of close friends

  1. What was the best part of your ___ year?
  2. What are you looking forward to most in your ___ year?
  3. Everyone else, share one affirmation, memory, hope, or prayer for the birthday girl!

Although the last question doesn’t quite work on a blog post 😉 , on the eve of my birthday, I’m going to answer her questions here.  She’s always been an inspiration to me as a writer, learner, lover, and friend, and she is one of the reasons why I created this blog.  I saw how she inspired her world as she shared her journey and thoughts in the midst of the process, and I found the courage to do the same.  This one is for you, dear friend.

What was the best part of your 26th year?  Realizing I was not perfect.  Coming to terms with the fact that I really don’t have it all together and the only person expecting me to was me.  That I couldn’t live the life of faith and courage I so desired to in the Lord if I didn’t give up my incessant obsession with making sure everything in life was just right.  The answer was called surrender.  By no means do I have it all figured out, but I guess that’s the point of it all anyway.

What are you looking forward to most in your 27th year?  To see how God will surprise me.  With everything.  With my hopes and dreams and how they’re changing.  With the waiting and how God’s going to answer in the midst of silence.  With my family and how He will take us into deeper knowledge and revelation of Him and His mercy.  With my one word for 2016 and how He’s going to teach me what it really means that He is with us.

There is much to be grateful for and much to be excited for.  So thank you, friend, for all the ways you still speak into my life though we may be hundreds of miles apart.  I love you.

Oh, and mom…thanks for giving birth to me! 🙂

Photo credit: Zellaby via / CC BY-NC-ND

2 thoughts on “Birthday Questions

  1. Debra says:

    What special friends you have, Stacey! I am very late to wish you a happy birthday, but I like the way your friend asks you to address how much the birthday “year” impacts and blesses you. So I’ll wish you a happy year to come. Your heart for being dependent on the Lord promises to give you all you need in the coming year. Blessings to you in every way, sweet friend. xx


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